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The Word “BUT”

How often do we find ourselves listening to someone and then responding with a statement that starts with the word “but”? Or what is even worse, we say, “yes, but…”. As soon as we say “but” we just negated everything that the other person said. It’s as though we have a tape that we play and we just can’t let anything else come in. We think that it’s polite to agree, even when we don’t. How much better it would be to paraphrase what was said to show that we were listening and then say what we think. No “but” required!


“Faith is trust. Faith is a deep sense of connectedness with Being.”
Eckhart Tolle


It’s the time of year when people clear out their basements and storage lockers. They get rid of their junk. And it’s also a great time to get rid of old resentments, grudges, and guilt. Clear those out of the way and you will have more energy available for love and joy.


Everybody is spiritual because everybody has a spirit”.


Spring is a time of new growth — grass, trees, flowers, and shrubs come fully alive again after a dormant winter.  Some of that spring energy can be felt in animals too, including humans.  It is a time for us to become more active and to dance in the sunshine. Go ahead — have fun!!!

Take a moment

Take a moment several times a day just to stop and breathe and focus your attention on exactly where you are and what is around you.  It may be a desk and a computer and a cup of coffee.  Or it may be a view out a window looking at the city or nature.  Whatever your surroundings, take that moment to get in touch with them and you will then get more in touch with you.


“Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.”
– Maya Angelou

Couple’s counselling is now available during evenings.


The year 2016 is an opportunity to set new intentions.  You can set an intention by reflecting upon what is important to you and what you would like to see continue to show up in your life or what you would like to see that would be new.  Then meditate on the intention and visualize it being present in the here and now.  For added emphasis, you can write it out so that the words are really clear.  


Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character.
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.


May your heart sing the song of your soul.
May you break yourself open in love going beyond yourself.
May thanksgiving and appreciation of what is in your life open the higher realms of consciousness for this month.

Chuck Spezzano
Kaneohe, Hawaii