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NOW

NOW is such a powerful word. Now is who I am, where I am and how I am at this moment. Now is feeling the sun warm my body, feeling the chair support me, feeling the blanket offer security, hearing your laughter, listening to the birds sing, tasting the sweetness of the berries on my tongue and so much more. Whenever life seems like too much worry or stress, stop and breathe into the NOW.

FIVE ETHICS OF LIFE

LISTEN — Before you Speak
EARN — Before you Spend
THINK — Before you Write
TRY — Before you Quit
LIVE — Before you Die
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A NEW YEAR

We are on the edge of leaving behind 2016 and entering 2017. Many people see a new year as a time of making resolutions for better behaviour. But more resolutions are broken than ever are fulfilled. So perhaps it would be more helpful to set intentions for the new year. What would you like to bring into your life — love? — wealth? — creativity? — Then focus on your intention, write it down and open to the ways the universe helps you to make it real.

COMMUNITY

Community is not just a word, it is a way of life. Community is an acknowledgement that we are not alone, that we are, indeed, connected to others. Through this connection we can help others with their lives, and we can ask for help and we can receive help. It is not weakness that causes us to share our lives with other people; it is the knowing that we can be stronger and healthier with others by our side.

TIME

Time — most people say they don’t have enough and mean that they want more than 24 hours in a day. The truth is that where we don’t have a lot of time is between birth and death. In the past month I have personally known two people who died in their forties and I have heard of three others. Yet we live like we have forever. We don’t. It is important that we be in the moment and cherish ourselves and those around us. Humans have an expiration date; love and light are eternal.

GRIEF

Grief is the normal reaction to loss. Grief hits us physically, emotionally, cognitively, and spiritually. For awhile it takes over and nothing is the same. Simple tasks are hard. Sleep is elusive. Food is unimportant. Concentrating or focusing is no longer possible. Crying is easy. Understanding what happened is impossible, yet we try to make sense of it anyway.
When caught in grief — reach out to friends, family, support groups, and/or counsellors. Grief is not meant to be gone through alone. It hurts too much.

What did you say?

The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.”
George Bernard Shaw

You are not your mind

“There is nothing more important to true growth than realizing that you are not the voice of the mind—you are the one who hears it.”
Michael Singer

PEACE

May today there be peace within. May you trust that you are exactly where you are meant to be. May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith in yourself and others. May you use the gifts that you have received, and pass on the love that has been given to you. May you be content with yourself just the way you are. Let this knowledge settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, praise and love.
It is there for each and every one of us.
Mother Theresa

The Word “BUT”

How often do we find ourselves listening to someone and then responding with a statement that starts with the word “but”? Or what is even worse, we say, “yes, but…”. As soon as we say “but” we just negated everything that the other person said. It’s as though we have a tape that we play and we just can’t let anything else come in. We think that it’s polite to agree, even when we don’t. How much better it would be to paraphrase what was said to show that we were listening and then say what we think. No “but” required!